Most of us are familiar with the term cyberbullying, but here’s a quick recap: cyberbullying is consistent and repeated behavior that targets a person with malicious intent. With the rise of shared digital communications such as social media and discussion platforms, the popularity of online bullying has steadily grown. 

But what causes this widespread issue? Like any other bullying, the root cause of cyberbullying is the perpetrator’s own insecurity, emotional turbulence, and hardships. Often, bullies harass their victims because it makes up for what they feel is a lack of control in their own lives. The distanced nature of digital communication makes bullying even easier for these people. Without seeing the faces of their victims, they are able to remove themselves from emotions like guilt and regret, finding it easier to torment someone without direct emotional consequence. It’s much easier to dehumanize someone when you only see them as a name on your screen.

With this in mind, I ask readers to think about their own digital use. Have you used technology or social media to harass or bully someone? Initially, you may be inclined to deny that you ever have. But cyberbullying, in individual instances, can seem as small as a joke or a light jab to the person who says it. What might be a joke to you might be another reason somebody else feels ashamed and alone. Each and every one of us has a duty to be careful of how we treat others, even on social media platforms, because in truth, we never know what someone else might be going through.

However, there are noticeable signs that someone you know may be a victim of cyberbullying. A common sign is withdrawal from social interaction. The mixture of shame, anxiety, and often depression that comes from cyberbullying can lead people to distance themselves from their family and friends. It may cause them to lose interest in things they once enjoyed, or even to begin to use drugs or other unhealthy outlets as a way to cope with their inner struggles. Often, if a teen is the victim of cyberbullying, they will increasingly skip school and distance themselves from social circles. If you know someone who shows these signs, it’s not a sure fact that they are a victim of cyberbullying, but chances are, they’re struggling with something. 

The best thing that you can do for someone struggling with cyberbullying is to show them your support. Let them know that you care about them. If you can, try to reintroduce things that they used to enjoy into their lives. But most importantly, you must convince them to report their situation. If they do not, it is important to let a trusted adult, such as their parents or counselor, know what is going on. It might feel like a betrayal of trust, but in cases of cyberbullying, reporting is absolutely necessary to resolve the issue.

 if you are being cyberbullied, you are not alone. It doesn’t matter what somebody else says or thinks about you. They do not know you, who you are, or what you have been through. You are deserving of support and you are loved. There are so many people who care for you, even if you can’t see it. You are here for a reason, and you deserve to be here. There is so much to live for and so much in your future, and nobody can ever take that away from you. You are so, so incredible and special. The world is, and will always be, better with you in it.

One of the better things about cyberbullying, compared to in-person harassment, is that there is proof. If you or someone you know is getting bullied online, compile screenshots of messages, perpetrators’ accounts, and other important information. With proof of the issue, higher-ups are much more likely and able to take action against the bully or bullies.

The bottom line is this: If you are being cyberbullied, you must reach out to someone. It might be extremely difficult, and you might feel ashamed or uncomfortable, but telling someone is absolutely essential to protect yourself. In many cases, cyberbullying can be stopped. In all cases, it is absolutely essential to have someone understand what you are going through so that they can support you and assist you in seeking help. If you can’t talk to your parents, talk to your friends. Your favorite teacher. Your sports coach. You deserve to be heard, and you deserve to be helped. 

If you are a victim of cyberbullying and need to talk to someone, there are numerous helplines available. Here are some quick, 24/7 helplines you can call:

• David Romprey Oregon Warmline: (800) 698-2392
• Community Helpline: (877) 541-2525